Recently I asked my readers in a survey for their thoughts on work-life balance and marriage. The answers were loud and clear:
• 6 out of every 10 said that work-life balance issues are a big concern
• Work-life balance is a greater concern for women than for men
• 7 out of every 10 who expressed concern about work-life balance indicated that their marriage is a critical factor
• Deeper emotional connections and more time for fun and recreation were the most desired qualities
This may all seem obvious to you but there may be more going on here. For example, Sheryl Sandberg, COO at Facebook, talked in a recent interview about the fact that women are still significantly under-represented in top-levels of leadership. Sandberg suggested that one of the key factors is inequality of responsibilities at home. She further suggested that women play a role in this by holding onto and insisting on playing traditional feminine roles, and that we as a society have little sympathy for men who are stay-at-home dads. So there are deeply ingrained attitudes that make it difficult for men and women to find a happy balance in the home, and consequently harmony between work and life demands.
If you are married and have a demanding career it is critical that you keep your marriage stable and happy. If you do, it will be your secure base where you can get supported and re-energized. If your marriage is unhappy or has become short on intimacy and fulfillment, it will run you down over time. We need to learn how to negotiate a balance of responsibilities from a place of love, honesty, and mutual respect. This requires new perspectives on marriage and work priorities.
Survey feedback also indicated a strong preference for private coaching and for online home-study courses. I am always interested in new clients as space allows so if you want to find out how I can help you achieve the balance and harmony you desire just let me know. I am also working on an exciting online course that will incorporate the latest research and strategies for successful marriages. Stay tuned.