Are You Ready for Awakened Monogamy?

If you are tuned in you may be noticing an evolution towards re-defining what marriage and deep intimate relationship is all about. There is a call to higher ground and the pathway is through your marriage. There is no other relationship that can touch you as deeply or stretch your capacity to be a loving and alive being in quite the same way. Read and ponder the following excerpt from “The Evolution of Intimate Relationship” by Robert Augustus Masters:

“For a very long time, intimate relationship was viewed and lived, with few exceptions, as an alternative — and not necessarily an equivalent alternative! — to spiritual life. There was the householder, and there was the spiritual seeker, and there wasn’t much overlap between them. As wide as this split was for men, it was even wider for women. Intimate relationship was something you did — or endured — until there was cultural permission to do something “deeper.”

Now there not only is a significant amount of cultural permission — small by conventional standards yet substantial enough to register on societal radar screens — for something “deeper” to happen within intimate relationship, but also an increasing pull toward it. So intimate relationship has, at its leading edge, become less a prelude to spiritual opening and awakening, and more a catalyst or crucible for it….

Awakened monogamy may sound wonderful, but how do we get there? After all, we can’t just read about it and then go live it. Much has to be done before this stage of monogamy is significantly available to us. For starters, we need to expose, face, and directly work — and not just cognitively! — with whatever is immature in us. We can’t, for example, remain emotionally illiterate or morally stunted if we want to be in a truly intimate relationship.

The passage from me-centered to we-centered to being-centered monogamy is not just a journey of ripening intimacy with a beloved other, but also a journey into and through zones of ourselves that may be very difficult to navigate, let alone get intimate with and integrate with the rest of our being”.
Challenging perhaps, but this represents a whole new world of meaning for your marriage as well as your own growth and awakening as a person. On August 24th life coach Mary Allen will be interviewing Robert and Diane Masters. Check it out: http://www.lifecoachmary.com/robertanddianemasters.htm