Executive Marriage Coach – Work-Life Balance Survey

June 9, 2011 by  
Filed under Leadership, marriage/relationships

Recently I asked my readers in a survey for their thoughts on work-life balance and marriage.  The answers were loud and clear:
•    6 out of every 10 said that work-life balance issues are a big concern
•    Work-life balance is a greater concern for women than for men
•    7 out of every 10 who expressed concern about work-life balance indicated that their marriage is a critical factor
•    Deeper emotional connections and more time for fun and recreation were the most desired qualities

This may all seem obvious to you but there may be more going on here.  For example, Sheryl Sandberg, COO at Facebook, talked in a recent interview about the fact that women are still significantly under-represented in top-levels of leadership.  Sandberg suggested that one of the key factors is inequality of responsibilities at home.  She further suggested that women play a role in this by holding onto and insisting on playing traditional feminine roles, and that we as a society have little sympathy for men who are stay-at-home dads.  So there are deeply ingrained attitudes that make it difficult for men and women to find a happy balance in the home, and consequently harmony between work and life demands.

If you are married and have a demanding career it is critical that you keep your marriage stable and happy. If you do, it will be your secure base where you can get supported and re-energized.  If your marriage is unhappy or has become short on intimacy and fulfillment, it will run you down over time.  We need to learn how to negotiate a balance of responsibilities from a place of love, honesty, and mutual respect.  This requires new perspectives on marriage and work priorities.

Survey feedback also indicated a strong preference for private coaching and for online home-study courses.  I am always interested in new clients as space allows so if you want to find out how I can help you achieve the balance and harmony you desire just let me know.  I am also working on an exciting online course that will incorporate the latest research and strategies for successful marriages.  Stay tuned.

Executive Marriage Coach Interviews Author Maria Gamb

October 16, 2010 by  
Filed under Leadership, Uncategorized

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 16 of the Virtual Blog Tour for Healing the Corporate World by author Maria Gamb.

Written by former Fortune 500 executive, Maria Gamb, who spent more than 20 years trailblazing businesses valued at upwards of $100 million, Healing the Corporate World is a cutting-edge book examining the deep, and usually unspoken, ailment of the modern corporate world, offering solutions for healing at a personal, financial and even spiritual level. By showing the reader “the four cycles of transformational leadership”, Maria provides business leaders, from solo entrepreneurs to corporate senior executives, practical answers on how to transform their organizations from the inside out, and become “Change Agents”, consciously creating their own reality.

Yesterday, Maria visited Tomar Levine at www.YourTimeToBloom.com .     For today’s stop on the tour, I decided to ask Maria some questions about value based leadership and relationships.
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Tom: What advice do you have for rebuilding trust when it has been damaged in an important relationship?

Maria: Great question Tom!  Unfortunately in our society right now many feel that they have been lied to and that “trust” has been broken.  You see it all over the news, hear it in coffee shops and in line on the supermarket in regards to the economic state and the recent downsizing of so many jobs.  However, often times situations that feel chaotic and disastrous can actually be an important part in the process of moving forward in a more productive manner.  In this case, we’re talking about business.

Often times a “burning off” of old thing that are no longer important, valid or valuable are brought to light.  They are let go and in its place it makes room for something new to emerge from the rubble.  It’s like a forest that burns and while the burning and destruction may appear, on the surface to be devastating, in truth the extreme heat and fire was required to allow dormant seedpods to open to create new growth.  It is the same with business and often times personal relationships.

Sometimes you have to let go.  Ultimately, something new and more beneficial blossoms where it looked bleak.  The key is not to hold onto the past but to move forward.

Tom: How does value based leadership effect the quality of personal relationships such as marriage and family?

Maria: Business and personal relationship run parallel.  What is happening at work is usually also happening at home.  The players may look differently including the tone, rewards and pitfalls but usually the results are the same.  There is a saying “how you do anything is how you do everything.”  That is why I make a point of letting the reader know that the process they are under taking is something that is  not confined to just your work relationships.  It’s about all your relationships.  The transformations they engage in will help all aspects of their lives.

The prescription for healing business is the same for healing personal affairs.  It starts with the individual and it requires them to go through self assessment and series of decision about who they truly want to be – not just what others expect them to be, do or have.

Tom: How do you help leaders define their most important values and priorities?

Maria: Often times, there is a disconnection or conflict within the individual as to what they truly value vs. how they behave.  That’s because they don’t truly believe or value what they say they do.  Otherwise they would act accordingly.  The way the brain works is that whatever you think (believe), will determine your actions. Those actions in turn create a result that is always 100% in alignment with your true beliefs.

It’s hard for most people to see this.  So in my workshops I take people through an exercise where they are asked to write down the 5 things they value most in the world.  It’s an open-ended question so the variation of answers is astounding and quite wonderful!  Then I take them through a process that challenges each one of them.  At the end of the process – they have a very clear picture of what is truly important to them in their lives.  Often times it’s a shock because they start to see clearly why their results are what they are. They start to see why their problems at work occur or why a team (clients, customers or other) may not want to follow them. This information helps the individual make corrections they wish to make in their thinking and behaviors.

The beauty of the process is that each person walks away understanding what things are non-negotiable in their lives anymore. They draw boundaries.  They create stronger priorities.  This is called a “value stand”. The by-product? Happier, healthier more productive relationship both personally and professionally.

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I hope you enjoyed this interview with Maria Gamb and that you’ll check out her new book Healing the Corporate World, which is coming to Amazon on Tuesday October 12, 2010.

To find out how to buy Maria’s BOOK and lots of cool FREE gifts go to:
http://www.healingthecorporateworld.com

As usual, please do feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

Executive Marriage Coach – Hitting the Wall, Guest Article

September 29, 2010 by  
Filed under Leadership, Sustainable success

Please read this article about an upcoming telesummit and book release by my friend Maria Gamb.

Hitting the Wall – What is the Change and How Do We Make It?
By Maria Gamb

There are times when we all hit the wall.

We hit that wall when we start to wonder whether or not what we’re doing is making any kind of impact – not just on ourselves and our families, but also on those around us.  So many times I have heard people ask, “Am I supposed to be working at the job I currently have?”  People question their level of fulfillment and wonder what it’s all for – especially given all that’s transpired from an economic standpoint over the past few years.

Something’s gone awry in business. On morning radio and TV shows, pundits argue one way or the other about how to cure this problem.  Recently I watched one commentator waving a large red pointer as he jumped up and down about financial projections and shortfalls.  But is this really what’s going to motivate business to change and bring it back to its bastion of integrity and profitability?

Executives and entrepreneurs alike are facing the same problems: lack of motivation, less than stellar morale, and lack of fulfillment or a sense of accomplishment.  They are fearful about their security and future.

But simply leaving the corporate world and working for oneself is not necessarily the solution. Sitting in a local coffee shop the other day, I overheard a conversation where one professional-looking woman was speaking to her sympathetic friend.

As she sipped her Americano, I heard the woman say, “I just want to walk out of this job and go weave baskets on the beach in Bali!”

Her friend replied, “Hey at least you have a steady job! I’m self-employed and it feels that way for me too.  I thought I was supposed to be happier this way. I thought I was going to feel fulfilled doing work I believed in.  But I can’t honestly say I am.”

They both stared at each other, looking beleaguered.

People want to feel productive.  People want to make a difference where they work no matter what it is that they do.  Many are tired of the problems we’ve faced in business year after year and are fed up.  And they want to be making a better living (read money).  However they are not quite sure how anything will get better.

So what’s the alternative?

It actually starts with each person– from corporate executives to the office worker to the self-employed– realizing that they are so much more powerful than they know, and by taking personal responsibility for their own happiness and fulfillment.  It means they will have to make a shift and undergo the same kind of transformation needed in many businesses today: working from the inside out.

We start change by changing ourselves.
I thought this topic was of such importance, I wrote a whole book on the subject called Healing the Corporate World: how value-based leadership transforms business from the inside out.
To celebrate the launch of my new book, which is coming to Amazon on October 12th, I would like to invite you to attend a very special fr*ee 4-part online telesummit with 9 guest speakers on this very topic:
“Transforming Business from the Inside Out”

October 4th-7th
1pm EDT/ 10am PDT/ 6pm UK/ 7pm CET
Register FR*EE at

http://www.mariagamb.com/book/telesummit.html

On this event, over the course of 4 days, you will get to hear thoughts from a distinguished panel of 9 passionate and innovative authors and speakers (ok, I’m one of them) to discuss the ingredients for becoming the ‘Change Agent’ in your business, in your life and in the world.
Below is an overview of the 4-day line up.
DAY 1: CHANGING OUR MINDSET FOR SUCCESS
Monday, October 4, 2010

•    VIP Guest: Greg Reid, Filmmaker, Motivational Speaker, #1 best-selling author of several books including Three Feet from Gold
•    Host: Maria Gamb, former Fortune 500 executive, business consultant and author of Healing the Corporate World
•    Host: Lynn Serafinn, transformation coach, marketing coach, author of The Garden of the Soul.

DAY 2: BLAZING A NEW TRAIL
Tuesday, October 5, 2010

•    VIP Guest: Allison Maslan, Life and Business Strategist, #1 selling author of Blast Off! Your Surefire Success Plan to Launch Your Dreams into Reality.
•    VIP Guest: Pam Slim, Business Coach and best-selling author Escape from Cubicle Nation: from Corporate Prisoner to Thriving Entrepreneur
•    Host: Maria Gamb, former Fortune 500 executive, business consultant and author of Healing the Corporate World
•    Host: Lynn Serafinn, transformation coach, marketing coach, author of The Garden of the Soul.

DAY 3: RELATIONSHIPS AND IMPACT
Wednesday, October 6, 2010

•    VIP Guest: Nicole Heimann, Leadership Coach and founder of 5C! Concept GmbH, Switzerland
•    VIP Guest: Rich Gallagher, Business communications expert and author of many books on the topic including The Soul of an Organization, How to Tell Anyone Anything and his #1 customer service bestseller What to Say to a Porcupine.
•    Host: Maria Gamb, former Fortune 500 executive, business consultant and author of Healing the Corporate World
•    Host: Lynn Serafinn, transformation coach, marketing coach, author of The Garden of the Soul.

DAY 4: INNOVATION AND CREATION
Thursday, October 7, 2010

•    VIP Guest: Chuck Vollmer, founder and President of Jobenomics, and author of the book of the same name.
•    VIP Guest: Michael McMillan, speaker, designer, creative consultant and author of the books Pink Bat, Paper Airplane and others.
•    Host: Maria Gamb, former Fortune 500 executive, business consultant and author of Healing the Corporate World
•    Host: Lynn Serafinn, transformation coach, marketing coach, author of The Garden of the Soul.

I believe people are the greatest raw material in any business when their mindset and belief is focused on creating rather than competing. When our values and rules of engagement, both for ourselves and our teams, are in alignment, we can finally become the Change Agents and get past that brick wall.

I hope you’ll join me October 4-7 to hear what some of today’s leading business innovators also have to say about this subject.

Executive Marriage Coach – How to be a Leader in Your Home this Thanksgiving

November 24, 2009 by  
Filed under Leadership, marriage/relationships

In the workplace, leaders set the tone and the culture of the organization. This is certainly true at home as well. The tone you set has a big impact on your wife or husband, yours kids and others around you. Have you noticed that your family will mirror that type of attitude and energy you project?

I remember as a kid how my Dad always made holidays special simply by his cheerfulness. His joy was having his family around him and he let us know how grateful he was for life’s little pleasures. His leadership made an impression on me that has never left and I strive to emulate.

So how will you lead in your home this Thanksgiving? Here are some words from my friend and author Cari LaGrange Murphy that will encourage you. “The act of appreciating someone or something can be likened to nurturing a seedling with sunshine! We are giving that “seed of desire” the positive energy it needs to sustain itself and grow! When we choose to believe in someone or something, miracles begin to happen. Offering unconditional love provides the space for anything to thrive and grow!”

I am fortunate enough to be spending this holiday with my wife, our two daughters and their husbands, and our darling granddaughter. Like my father before me, I can think of nothing better and I am deeply grateful. May you also be filled with gratitude for all the small and the grand things in your life!

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