Executive Marriage Coach – The Search for Fulfillment

We come into this world as a precious spirit abiding in a beautiful but fragile baby body.  We have no tools to survive in this world so we are completely vulnerable and dependent on those who care for us.  To the extent that we receive the care we need, including love, safety, and nurturing, we will grow in confidence and capabilities.  We learn to develop, nurture, and express our own spirit as we grow up and become who we are meant to be.  It is like a seed encoded with the possibilities of becoming a beautiful, fruitful tree, but the form of the mature tree depends on the conditions present to shape it in the process of maturation.  However, unlike the adult tree, we never lose the ability to create and transform ourselves as we obtain the tools and understanding of how to do so.

Our human experience does not provide all the perfect growing conditions, so we get cut and bruised, and injured.  Instinctively we protect ourselves as best we can and hide the precious spirit within from harm.  To the extent that we do not receive what we need, we lack in confidence that it is OK to express and be who we are.  Over time we forget who we are in essence and learn to compensate for the pain and fears we feel.  This sets us a pattern of seeking to fulfill ourselves through whatever seems to offer comfort and validation.  However, this will always fail because we are not designed to fulfill ourselves.  We are designed to be fulfilled in the divine spirit and to find purpose in learning, growing, experiencing, and contributing to creation in this life we are living.

Marriage and other intimate relationships offer great potential for helping us grow and transform.  However, we often suffer because we ask our partners to provide the fulfillment we are desperately seeking and they cannot.  So we get stuck in projection, blame, and resentment, because we are angry about a lifetime of not knowing how to get our needs met.  What we fail to realize is our intimate and loving relationships cannot be the source of our fulfillment but they can be the fertile environment we need to do the inner work of connecting with and expressing our true self.  In a loving relationship we can find the safety and courage to remove the layers of protection we have built around our spirit.  As a partner in a loving relationship you can experience the privilege of supporting and bearing witness to the dissolving of these fears and pains and the emergence of the essence of your loved one. There may be no higher calling than this.